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Pants On, Please.

28 May

My neighbor grills in the nude.  He is aware that I can see him when he does this.  In fact, it well may be that he believes this will cause me to have deep inner longing.  I might begin to think of him as an avenue for some unfulfilled lust and call on him to satisfy my needs.  This is NOT going to happen.  First, I don’t have time for deep inner longing, and if I did, I’d lust for a piece of calorie free chocolate cake and bathroom break that lasted more than twenty-six seconds and could be had in a bathroom with a dead bolt.  Second, if I am going to have an affair then I will need both a time machine and the ability to make a literary character come to life because only Jaime Fraser will do.  If hes not available then my Physicist-Geek of a husband will simply have to suffice.

I think its a very likely possibility that Nude Neighbor used to fill in for Bozo the Clown when Bozo had one too many and needed to sleep it off.  He has an enormous belly that he likes to cover with Bass Fishing T-shirts.  I have never seen him wear any shoe other than a Birkenstock and at first glance its easy to mistake his toe hair for a small rodent.   His matted rat’s nest bulges out above his ears and neck, but stops short of covering the crown.  I only wish the glare reflecting from his shiny bald head blinded me completely when I find myself cornered in the front yard while he stands panting in front of me like a dog in heat.   He spends his afternoons working his way through a case of Budweiser Select and chuckling over Bewitched reruns.   When we first moved in I had only one child (ah, the days) and spent long hours gardening in the front yard.  He’d spot me and quickly lumber over to openly stare at my breasts. He seemed to have an affinity for knowing when I was wearing a v-neck shirt or the humidity was so high that my sweat had made the shirt virtually see through and he’d make a run for it before I could slam the door in his face. On days that it was really worth his time, he would attempt to recite tax law in an effort to keep me, and my sweaty breasts, in his sight at all times.

Hes often told me to call him I need anything, especially during the days – and nights- my husband was out of town.  I have a sneaking suspicion that he doesn’t mean for me to call if I find Buzz Lightyear is clogging the kid’s toilet or I need a cup of canola oil.  He is likely envisioning us laying naked in a bed with satin sheets slowly working our way through a bucket of KFC extra crispy while he licks chicken fat from my fingers.  I can tell you this is not going to happen.  Although becoming a mother of three has lowered my standards in regards to bathing, household cleanliness, and a balanced diet, my Gag reflex remains firmly intact.  Unless that takes a serious hit I don’t think I will be able to endure an affair with him.  So perhaps, just maybe, he might consider keeping his damn pants ON while grilling from now on.  Pretty Please.  I’m not above begging.

 
 

Sling Out Your Boob

22 May

I’m all about a woman’s right to choose. The right to choose what she does with her own womb, the right to choose her own hair color, the right to choose to breast-feed or formula feed. That said, I’m a breast feeder.

I became pregnant with Baby #2 six weeks after my Sister in Law got pregnant with her first. Scandalous. A month or so after my Son was born she and I were at a family gathering. I was sitting in a chair in the corner with my Hooter Hider covering all hints of indecent breast tissue and bodily fluids and my Sister in Law pulls out a bottle to feed her Son. Curious my Mother in Law says, “Have you stopped Breast Feeding?” Her husband pipes up before she can answer. He wrinkles his nose in my general direction and very loudly says “Oh she IS, but we only do THAT at home. She doesn’t need to be SLINGING out her BOOB at other people’s houses.”  The cave man grunted his point of view.

Now nursing number three I am enduring this idiotic loathing from countless others, many of them women.  Men are idiots and as such they take their ques from US.  I know this backward thinking begins with us, we plant the seeds in our hateful and damaging gossip with and about each other.  Why do we tear each other down?  Are we so uncertain of ourselves and mistrust our own judgement to such a degree that even after we make a conscious choice we secretly rehash it endlessly in our minds?  Wasn’t the Bra Burning movement and the Hippy phase supposed to begin a period of support and comradery amongst women?  Why not rally support for each other, build each other up, confirm that we all have the right to choose what works best for us as individual women, mothers, wives.  But we don’t.  We shoot hateful glances over the top of steaming cups at Starbucks to the equally sleep deprived mother in the corner, the one who has chosen to nurse and there fore makes your decision to bottle feed feel like a failure.

No more.  You feed yours, I’ll feed mine, and lets all resolve to accept the choice of another Mother as the best possible she could make.

 
 

Negative Space

16 Mar

My husband is at a the Annual Physics Society Convention, or something equally thrilling, and I’m here alone with two children and a mountain of laundry. Que QVC.

So, an hour for Breezies comes on and, sadly, I think “Oh goodie, Support Panties!” Ohhhh…. its a sad day when your idea of cute underwear is finding a shade of support panties to match your minimizer bra. Anyway, they bring this model out who is so damn thin her hip bones are showing through her pants. They do the before granny panties picture, and then the after side by side. Now I am enraged. This woman’s ass was FINE pre-Breezies. The difference now is that it has disappeared entirely. Its like there is a black hole, now she has entirely NO ass. Now shes going to have to call Kim Kardashian for butt implant referrals. Just put a real woman on there who actually needs the underwear, so we can see that the underwear actually fulfills the purpose for which it was intended and designed. Jeez.

 
 

Kate… not so great.

17 Oct

Up until recently I have been an avid Jon and Kate Plus Eight watcher. You might even say I was an addict. All day on Monday I would wash laundry and prepare it for folding, hanging and ironing. I would leave piles and baskets on my living room sofa until the kids were in bed asleep and I could fold, press and decompress myself, in peace. All while watching this woman loosing her mind on a daily basis. Really, a great way to start my week.

Unlike so many viewers, I never worshiped the woman, far from it. I enjoyed watching her wade through the day facing the same struggles I do, and carrying the same burden all Mothers shoulder. She and I are alike in many ways but we differ in some key areas. For starters, I do not, nor have I ever, treated my husband like he is a Dog. Kate repeatedly acts as though Jon is mentally inferior to her. When his choice of vocabulary stays from what she feels is appropriate, Kate berates him continually until he shrinks up and shuts down. She constantly calls him “emotionally retarded”, and he could be. But if he is, she has herself to thank for causing it. It simply isn’t safe for him to speak, and so he is silent. Self preservation is an animal instinct, after all.

Kate seems to be completely devoid of the ability to look within herself and assess her own issues, but all too capable to recognize and diagnose the imperfections of others. Her arrogance and self love are all consuming. I’ve reached the point where I don’t take away any humor in the parallels of our lives. I don’t find comfort in our similar ailments. I am now just fully offended by her extreme malice and discontent with her situation, which was of her own choosing, and I don’t care to watch her and her wretched behavior any longer.

This week I heard some gossip about negative press she’d been receiving… and I was shocked. Its sad and disgusting that someone who has been given so much kindness by total strangers and so much charity and support can be so selfish and cold. It makes me a little sick to my stomach to think that Kate is able to continue to look in the camera lens week after week and not be utterly ashamed of her behavior toward her family. Sad. To realize someone is not what they seem is so disappointing.

Thank Goodness there is still Santa Claus. Whew.